This post is going to be a bit personal. It may however help someone who is going through something similar.
I have been prepping and preparing with the same 2 other families for a decade. We have been very close, like family but...
Something has been off for a good while. It has been increasingly hard to get everyone together for almost any purpose. Training opportunities have been given to us only to end up with us passing on them because we simply could not get everyone to commit. Because of other things going on in life we failed to capitalize on some terrific potential learning.
Increasingly it seemed that my wife and I were the serious ones, the folks trying to herd cats so to speak. Again and again our own progress in what we needed was hampered because of schedule conflicts and other commitments by our partners.
This year I have committed to prepping me. Along that vein I realized we needed to get out in the open what we felt and see what was the will of the others involved. I called a meet for this purpose.
We laid it all out. It did not go the way I had hoped.
People who we believed were just as committed as we were to continue toward building a resilient tribe relocated at property already secured have lost their desire. They have lost their sense of urgency. They have succumbed to normalcy bias. Living in this false reality has taken priority away from preparing to live a more primitive and self sufficient life. They were honest and we appreciated it but...they simply are not going to be the people we continue building with.
So today I feel a little like I've been slapped back a decade.
Yesterday I thought I had it figured out. Today I am trying to get a grip on the new reality.
My wife nor I slept well. This morning she stated flatly "we have a lot of decisions to make" and added "what do we do?"
I don't know.
What I do know is that this changes my personal goals not one tick. We are still on a countdown to moving our family to the lifestyle we want. We are still on a mission to learn all we can, acquire what we need and be ready to weather all storms. We just won't be doing that with the now broken tribe we have had for many years.
It is disappointing, but not devastating.
This is too important to have to herd people. Too critical a commitment to have to try and pull people along. Everyone gets tired and needs encouragement and that is part of tribal life but once you have realized that other's hearts are no longer in it, it is time to check yourself. YOU are the only person you can control. YOU have to make a decision.
A man I know and trust told me a while back that he had been a part of 6 prepper groups and that all had fell apart. This is a serious man. He already lives a sustainable lifestyle. He is building his family's survivability daily. He knows he needs bodies and people he can trust but like many people it seems finding those committed souls is harder than it first appears.
I have a few years worth of investment that was not wasted but definitely could have been much better utilized. We could have been much further along and closer to the life we need.
I should have done this reality seeking mission at least 2 years ago. At the first sign of an issue I should have laid it all bare and demanded answers and honesty. Instead I hoped.
Where are you at with your tribe? What are their true goals? Are you having to drag them along? Are you having to be dragged?
Today is when you need to address it. Time is wasting and every day you wait is a one more day you are not making the progress you owe to your family.
Honesty and plain talk is what is required here, not beating around bushes. While personal relationships make us loathe to look at our tribal health with a critical eye, we owe it to ourselves and our family to do it. If you are the one waffling then you owe it to the others to be honest and either step up or step back. If you see that others are losing their desire, you owe it to yourself to confront it.
Now is not the time for an extended breather.
Time is so short.